I wonder why children don't tell when sexually abused! But I was able to get some facts on the reasons why they don't tell.
Victims try to cope with lingering and unexplainable feelings of shame and guilt at the abuse they have been forced to endure.
A victim will not tell because he or she will become a subject of pity, mockery or negative attention in the society.
That is exactly what happened to Muji (not real name) of 14-year-old who was sexually abused and raped by a 60-year-old bachelor - Segun Benson,
Segun Benson has been accused of raping a 14-year-old primary school pupil in Agege.
Segun, the only surviving child of his mother who has refused to be married, was said to have lured the girl into his room with N50 where he forcefully had a canal knowledge of her.
Narrating her gory experience, the victim said, “I am in primary six. On Friday, he gave me N50 to buy sweet for myself. He then asked me to caress his private parts. When I told him I would tell my daddy, he said I should not go home.
“He took me to his house around Railway Line where he raped me. I was there from 3pm till around 7pm. I started bleeding from his house and when I got home the blood did not stop. But I kept it secret until Saturday when people saw it.”
The victim’s mother, Taibat narrated how she found out.
“I have seven kids and she is the third child. I was sleeping when people called me that my daughter had been raped. I have never met the man before though he lives on the street. The government should take over the case and do what is right.”
A resident who raised the alarm when she saw the girl bleeding added her side of the story, “I saw her writhing in pain in a bathroom. She said she wanted to defecate, but I saw blood coming out of her private parts. “I raised the alarm and when other people arrived at the scene, she said it was Segun that raped her.”
A relative, Okunloye Kehinde, said the victim’s private parts had been damaged. “I got a call around 2pm that fateful Saturday. When I got there, I saw a crowd of people around her. I saw a container filled with blood. Even her clothes were drenched in blood.”
But the accused' mother was seen pleading for help. She said Segun is her only surviving child.
“Segun is my only child. I had four other children and they are all dead. He is the reason for my living. I don’t know why he did what he did.
“Each time I tried to get him a wife, he refused and told me he was old enough to look for a woman for himself. He said that many times without getting a wife. Please help me because he’s my hope.”
When contacted, the Police Public Relations Officer, Kenneth Nwosu, said the case had been transferred to the State Criminal Investigation Department, Yaba.
I hope earnestly that Lagos State Government's Sex Offender list will function like what is obtainable in other parts of the world.
APC presidential candidate and his vice, Gen. Buhari and Prof Osinbajo, APC chieftain Bola Ahmed Tinubu, Rivers State governor Rotimi Amaechi paid a courtesy visit to IBB at his Minna, Niger state home Monday afternoon.
The shocking revelation comes two weeks after President Goodluck Jonathan, the Peoples Democratic Party candidate, visited the former leader in his home in Minna, and called IBB his “father.”
News details suggest that former military president Ibrahim Bademasi Babangida has endorsed the presidential candidature of Muhammadu Buhari, the All Progressives Congress candidate.
Can you imagine a child being abused by her father - incest? The child will of course be reluctant to tell because she will loose the love of her father if she tells. Moreover the victim who knows that the abuser will be arrested and probably imprisoned may not be comfortable telling.
A victim once said "I love my father, but hate him at night because he is no longer my father"...
The story you are about to read will shock you as a teen of 17-years-old was dating her father and still proud of it.
A teenager has told how she became engaged to her dad after the two were reunited following more than a decade apart.
The American woman was estranged from her dad growing up, but the two got back in touch when she was 17. After chatting online for a few weeks the two met – and felt an instant attraction.
Speaking to New York Magazine’s Science of Us the anonymous woman, now 18, said:
“It was so weird and confusing. I was seeing my dad for the first time in forever but it was also like, He’s so good-looking!”I saw him as my dad but then also part of me was like, I’m meeting this guy who I have been talking to over the internet and really connecting with and I find him attractive.”
She went to stay with him for a week and after just five days the pair discussed their attraction to one another, before losing her virginity to him.
They are now a couple, have become engaged, and even plan on having children together.
Some of their family members are aware of their relationship – and treat them “just like any other couple” – but her mum is still in the dark.
But the daughter says she will tell her mother once she and her dad have moved to New Jersey where consensual, incestuous relationships where both parties are over 18 are not punished.
She hopes her mother will still want to come and visit her grandchildren.
Asked if she was worried about the potential genetic problems that could face their children, she replied
“I wouldn’t risk having a kid if I thought it would be harmful. I’ve done my research.”Incest has been around as long as humans have. Everybody just needs to deal with it as long as nobody is getting hurt or getting pressured or forced.” But asked if she would tell their children that their dad was both their father and grandfather, she was less sure.
“We’ve decided that most likely we won’t, she said. “I don’t want to give them any problems.”
What is this world turning to? Parents need to becareful of how they handle relationship. This aforementioned teen did that based on the fact that her mother was not staying with her father. Though, some fathers still harass or abuse their children sexually despite the fact that mother is living with the father.
My advice goes to parents especially mothers who may be reading this article to please spend quality time with your children!
We live in a society where work and the quest to earn more money has become the order of the day.
My prayer is that God will give us fruitful family in Jesus' name.
Former militant leader, Asari Dokubo says he and other Niger Delta militants will match the North violence for violence before, during and after the 2015 general election.
Asari who spoke on Tuesday on STV breakfast show in Nigeria said over the years the Northern part of the country have taken pride at unleashing mayhem and killing innocent souls after losing elections.
According to him, the insurgency in the North is not as a result of poverty but man induced.
He denied the allegation made by former Head of State Olusegun Obasanjo (whom he accused of sleeping with many women including his daughter inlaw) of not telling the truth when he accused him of being given licenses to import arms to the country.
Asari ended by saying that President Goodluck Jonathan is the best President Nigeria ever produced based on his performance so far despite the setbacks from those who didn't wish Nigeria well..
He accused the North of desperately seeking for power which was why they killed a duly elected Southern President , Moshood Abiola..
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DATE : WEDNESDAY 21st JANUARY 2015
THEME : GOOD SUCCESS
Memorise :
For the turning away of the simple shall slay them, and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them. Proverbs 1:32
Read: Joshua 1:8,
This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.
BIBLE IN ONE YEAR : ISAIAH 61:64 and ACTS 13:6-25
Message
The Bible classifies success into good success and negative or bad success. Of course, to the carnal mind, the idea of bad success is an irony. The Lord defined the type of success that emanates from Him in Proverbs 10:22
“The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.”
In other words, if a so-called blessing is not from the Lord, certainly there will be some sorrow attached to it. This kind of success cannot be said to be good. Little wonder God Almighty prescribed what will bring good success to Joshua, as there are other type of success.
The blessing of the Lord makes you live long to enjoy the fruit of your labour (Psalm 91:6). The Lord who blesses is the same one who protects. If you are afraid of calamity after a breakthrough, maybe the source of that so-called breakthrough is not God. No man can temper with good success that emanates from God. Some people are afraid of success because of what people will say about them.
You can go ahead and continue to run from success if the success is not coming from God, because it cannot be good success. However, when your breakthrough or success is directly from God, no witch, wizard or herbalist can tamper with it.
In Genesis 26:12-14, we read about a classical example of good success record by Isaac. This man was so blessed that even the king of the Philistines envied him. The secret of this good success is found in the Genesis 26:2-6. Isaac obeyed the voice of God, stayed where God asked him to stay and he became prosperous with good success. Good success is not far from those who determine to obey God all the way.
In today’s Bible text, God revealed the secret of good success to Joshua which every child of God must pay attention to. God told Joshua that for Him to have good success, the book of the law should not just be in his mouth, he was to meditate therein constantly in order to observe to do according to its contents. This truth is reinforced in James 1:25:
“But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.”
If you want to obtain good success therefore, be a doer of the work in God’s Word
Prayer Point :
Father, please grant me good success in all of my endeavours this year in Jesus’ Name.
AUTHOR : Pst E. A ADEBOYE
As you may be aware, there has been a lot of volatility in the oil market in the past few months and due to this the importation prices of our petroleum products have been impacted.
Therefore, with the approval and directive of Mr. President and by virtue of Section 6 clause 1 of the Nigerian Petroleum Act, it is my responsibility as Minister of Petroleum Resources to hereby announce a reduction in the pump price of Petroleum Motor Spirit (Petrol) from the current Ninety Seven Naira (=N=97) per litre pump price down to Eighty Seven Naira (=N87=) per litre pump price, effective from twelve (12) midnight Sunday, 18th of January 2015.
Accordingly, I have directed the Petroleum Products Pricing Regulatory Agency (PPPRA) and the Department of Petroleum Resources (DPR) to ensure strict compliance of this price adjustment by all marketing companies.
It is my hope that all Nigerians will benefit from this adjustment. I thank you and God Bless you all.
Diezani Alison-Madueke (Mrs.) CON
Honourable Minister of Petroleum Resources
